Departure From The Bride’s Home

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出阁 (chū gé) refers to the bride’s departure from her family home. Traditionally, Chinese brides would leave their family home permanently to live with their husband after the wedding, making this departure a significant rite of passage for both the bride and her family.

As they prepare to leave, the newlyweds are traditionally expected to bow three times: first, to heaven and earth as a gesture of respect to the gods and their ancestors; second, to their parents to express gratitude for their upbringing and care; and third, to each other, symbolizing mutual love and respect.

On the way to the bridal car, the bride is sheltered by a red umbrella, which is believed to ward off negative energy. In most cases, the bride’s father holds the umbrella, but in Teochew and Hokkien traditions, a male elder from her family may also take on this role. For Cantonese and Hakka brides, the umbrella may be held by a matchmaker or a bridesmaid as she makes her way to the car. Along the path, family members, bridesmaids, or a matchmaker may also throw red beans or rice to bring good luck.

The final step in this important 出阁 rite of passage is for the bride to throw a red foldable fan out of the car window as she departs. This act symbolizes leaving behind her past, bad habits, and any negativity, allowing her to embark on a new chapter of her life. The fan may later be retrieved by someone from her family.

After completing the 出阁 ceremony, the newlyweds will make their way to the groom’s home for 过门 (guò mén), marking the bride’s formal entry into her new family.

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